Ok, update. Which is weird.
So after changing that RTIRQ, still getting thousands of XRun errors in the rec bracket. So far only one on the non bracket bit.
Device is seen in audacity and can record.
Device is seen in Jack.
Sound is not going back into Rode from IDJC. It's a USB connection and in Pulseaudio hardware config, it's set to the Rode in and out and the same on the Pulseaudio "usual" volume control.
So I am stuck now I think, I still have a few days to return to Amazon. But inspiration is failing me at this point - unless I start doing the radio through the Mac or Windows - which I really really don't want to do
EDIT: So now after disabling PC soundcard, I have got music going back to the Rode but it is very scratchy and distorted and you can't make anything out, but at least something is going back.
FURTHER EDIT: Had a mad idea which is how lad got into helping me!
So chain is:
Rode into JACK/PC as HW Device
Rode mics and input records to internal card, bluetooth works, everything. Processing is turned off on Rode as my dbx is taking the strain. No more noisy pots on old behringer mixer.
Output in Jack is internal normal sound card. Headphones into PC.
No X run errors.
This way mix of music/talking is recorded in IDJC. Clean mics recorded internally in Rode for editing.
This is the way my old PC was set up to record which we could never replicate hence using In/Out on Jack on the same device (which I know is the way it is supposed to work) and why I washed up here in the first place - though I am glad I did!
The only issue I had with Behringer was when we were using In/Out in Jack to the mixer and I had no end of trouble that way - so I think it is all fixed! (Not sure how it works, it just kind of does. Thank you though all!!!)
Sidenote - I could literally cry with joy at this point! And if I ever use the dual in/out, listening with headphones into the Rode on the Mac, I know that works as well for when I am out on the road!